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🗓️ 18 September 2025
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One of the worst decisions you can make with your teens is trying to control them. Jessica Pfeiffer and Dr. Ken Wilgus talk to Jim Daly on why trying to sway all of your teen's choices is a recipe for disaster. Also, John asks Danny how parents can respond well if their teen was given some freedom, but they violated that privilege.
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| 0:32.3 | One of the challenging parts of raising teens is realizing you really don't have control. |
| 0:38.2 | I don't know what it was, maybe 13, 14, 15 years old. |
| 0:42.2 | One of the kids, I just thought, I can't make you do this. |
| 0:46.7 | I've lost my agency to do this. |
| 0:49.9 | Kids are going to do what they're going to do. |
| 0:51.6 | And I've got a dear friend who said, darn that free will. Children have free will. They're just going to do what they're going to do. And I've got a dear friend who said, darn that free will. |
| 0:54.8 | Children have free will. They're just going to do what they want. I'm John Fuller, along with our |
| 1:00.1 | vice president of parenting, Dr. Danny Werta, who's just kind of casually laughing as I described |
| 1:05.3 | these tense moments. Danny, it really is kind of enlightening for us as parents to realize |
| 1:10.3 | I'm trying to control what they're doing, but it's not working. |
| 1:14.6 | No, it, we can't control even ourselves, really. |
| 1:20.0 | That's why I'm laughing. |
| 1:21.7 | It's hard enough. |
| 1:22.5 | I would tell my kids, I don't want to control you. |
| 1:24.7 | I don't want to control you because I have a hard enough time figuring out how to control me and just as far as just life in general. |
| 1:33.1 | Really, in our home, we've laughed about the differences between Heather and I. |
| 1:38.8 | And most couples I work with, most families, when I go speak on the topic of parenting, |
| 1:45.9 | the topic of marriage comes up and this difference of one being more of a controlling type of parent and more focused |
| 1:52.8 | on the tasks, the rules, the control, and another one a little bit more either lenient on it |
| 2:00.3 | or not consistent with it and the frustrations |
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