Hi, welcome back to the Personality Hacker podcast. My name is Joel Mark Whitt and I'm

Antonio Dodge. So I realized something about myself probably in the last year. I measure

the intelligence, the sophistication, the wanting to be somebody's friend, really, all

these things around a person's self-awareness. So the more I perceive another person to

be, the more self-aware they are, the more I'm interested in connecting that person, the

higher intelligence I think they have, the more articulate I think they are. Like I just

I give them a boost of a bunch of other characteristics that may not be valid just

based on how much they're aware of themselves. And I think that's a bias I have. I don't

think that's necessarily a good metric. I just recognize that that's how I judge other

people often. And it's probably because I have the arrogance to think I am at the

acme of self-awareness myself. And as we were preparing to talk about this idea today

on the episode in Tonya, we were talking about like the difference between just as an example

self-awareness versus self-esteem. And you said, well, you gave me this you gave me this

feedback. You're like, well, self-esteem is like it's like an estimation. It's like a metric

of something, but self-awareness isn't really a metric. It's just it just is. And I was

thinking about that. And I was like, well, that's partly true to me. And I guess I could

say that self-awareness is really one of those things we can only see our progression

in hindsight. Like imagine self-awareness is like climbing a mountain. I'm half way up

the mountain. I'm not going to look up the mountain and say, oh, I lack awareness

about myself. I mean, I may around specific topics that cause me pain, like if I'm a

feeler, which I am. And maybe I my thinking processes are not up to, up to par like I wish

they were. I might go, oh, I wish I had more awareness around this. But we usually think

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