Hello, Shand Audio listeners. I'm Maria Tremarki. And I'm Holly Fry. And our podcast,

Criminalia, covers historical true crime. And each week, we come up with a cocktail and mocktail

to go along with those stories. And we have exciting news. Our book, Killer Cocktails,

dangerous drinks inspired by history's most ne Criminals, is available now.

And it's a mix of stories from the podcast and completely new stories.

Killer Cocktails is available in print, digital, and audiobook formats wherever you buy books.

I am I'm Yama. I've been very open about the fact that I was not always good at making my

relationships work. I have been divorced three times twice from the same person. In other words,

I have seen a lot and failed a lot in my relationships.

So I am here to share with you what I learned along the way because I did take copious notes.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with IHe Heart Radio.

Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome to the R spot. I am Yonla, your facilitator, support your sister woman, your friend,

your guidepost as we delve deeper into these conversations about relationships,

all kinds of relationships as the universal classroom for becoming more of the truth of who we are.

Oh, my goodness, relationships, relationships.

I don't think there's any more important than those parental relationships.

And I don't know about you, but mine was not what I would have created had I gone into the room with the pot to make it.

And mine wasn't.

Either with my father, who was emotionally unavailable or my mother who was deceased.

Unfortunately, nobody bothered to tell me that my mother was dead.

So I grew up thinking one

woman was my mother who wasn't, thanks to my father. Anyway, that's the story. The outcome is what

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