Performative Males and Black Cat Boyfriends with Alec Flynn
Girls Gotta Eat
Ashley Hesseltine
4.6 • 29.2K Ratings
🗓️ 22 September 2025
⏱️ 96 minutes
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Summary
We have a fun one for you! Comedian Alec Flynn joins us to talk about The Performative Male (Are they a red flag? Is there a spectrum? How do you spot the “bad ones”?) as well as Black Cat Boyfriends vs. Golden Retriever Boyfriends. We also break down an email from a male listener about why he’s having trouble dating and offer advice for how to build confidence, and we discuss the notion that men have disappeared from the social and/or dating scenes and why. Other topics include: Leg tattoos, conspiracy theories about gambling, and panda diplomacy (we learned something new). Before Alec joins us, we’re talking about green flags in guys – everything from how they treat animals to drinking habits to what kind of music they like. Enjoy!
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | We got to talk about the performative male. |
| 0:01.8 | I have a tote. |
| 0:03.0 | Listen, I got a tote. |
| 0:04.6 | I got like tattoos. |
| 0:06.4 | I may or may not read some Joan Didion here and there, but I got to say this right now. |
| 0:10.0 | I'm going to say this right now. This podcast is a dear media production. |
| 0:28.2 | Hi guys. |
| 0:29.4 | Welcome back to their episode of Girls Gotta Eat. |
| 0:31.9 | Big day. |
| 0:32.7 | Tickets are on sale for the holiday show. |
| 0:36.3 | Girls got to eat holiday spectacular. |
| 0:38.4 | Two nights only. |
| 0:39.2 | Two night stand. |
| 0:40.2 | L.A., New York, that is it. |
| 0:43.1 | We haven't been on tour this year, |
| 0:44.3 | but we'd never leave you hanging for the holiday show. |
| 0:46.0 | So they are on sale today, 10 a.m. local time at Girls Got to Eat.com. |
| 0:50.5 | L.A., we will see you on December 6th. |
| 0:52.6 | Saturday night. |
| 0:53.3 | New York, we will see you December 13th, Saturday night. |
| 0:55.9 | Our biggest shows ever are the holiday shows. |
| 0:58.3 | We love them. They're wild and crazy. You're going to be feral. Like, the vibes, that's the vibe. I'm, oh, them or me. I've been feral lately. Like, I just feel like, I mean, I think we both will be, but like we haven't done this in so long. |
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