Perfectionism: Healing the Shadow Side

On Health for Women

Aviva Romm

Alternative Health, Arts, Health & Fitness, Medicine

4.8 • 1.4K Ratings

🗓️ 6 September 2023

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

As we transition into autumn, with to-do lists piling up and the pressure of getting back "on track," it's an important time to revisit an age-old and perenially resonant topic: Perfectionism. It's part of how we end up overwhelmed, doing it all, and never feel like we're doing enough. i know that feeling, too! Perfectionism, that relentless inner sense of 'not-enoughness; that far too many women know far too well, is a form of what's known as high-functioning anxiety, it's a sign that you might be stuck in the adrenal-stress response - survival mode, and it's also something that can have downstream impacts on your sleep, hormones, focus, immune system, digestion, mood, weight, cardiovascular health, and more. In this episode, I invite you to reframe perfectionism, along with being a "Good Girl" and other signs of survival mode that can be causing you more stress than you even realize, and welcome you to join me in taking a deep breath as we move into a new season together, with a deeper understanding of how we can calm and quiet Perfectionism by cultivating a quieter inner life, and how you can learn to recognize the difference between the Superpowers you have and when - and why - their Shadow Sides are showing you up and driving you too hard. Join me as I share: My personal journey with Perfectionism How one of my patients shifted my perspective on Perfectionism forever What I mean by hungry ghosts and how to stop feeding them The potential health consequences of Perfectionism Symptoms suggesting that you may be struggling with Perfectionism Seven simple practices to help shift out of Perfectionism starting today! Also listen in for a special announcement about my Women's Integrative Medicine Training Program and a new Autumn podcast schedule! To learn more about the Women's Integrative Medicine Training Program go to avivaromm.com/wimi To register for the free webinar The Optimal PCOS Diet: The Science Behind the Nutrition Connection go to https://avivaromm.com/courses/pcos-nutrition-webinar-optin/ Thank you so much for taking the time to tune in to your body, yourself, and this podcast! Please share the love by sending this to someone in your life who could benefit from the kinds of things we talk about in this space. Make sure to follow your host on Instagram @dr.avivaromm and go to avivaromm.com to join the conversation. Looking for supplements for yourself and your family, including some of those I talk about in episodes? You can find those - and your 15% discount on every order here: avivaromm.com/supplements Practitioners - you can also learn how to create your own accounts at fullscript.com/practitioner-signup/AVIVA

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0:00.0	The superpower and the shadow are one and the same.
0:09.0	They are the same coin, the same album, the same you, the same trait.
0:14.0	But always remember, the shadow is the survival form of the trait, usually aspects of the superpower on overdrive.
0:25.6	From the stuff your mother never told you to the stuff your doctor never learned,
0:29.6	on health is what happens when a midwife plus a Yale-trained MD shares about all things women's health,
0:35.6	from periods to menopause, sex to reproductive health
0:39.4	politics, motherhood to mental health. Join me for taboo-busting conversations that demystify
0:45.0	and destigmatize our bodies, all while bridging the gap between conventional medicine and wellness.
0:51.0	Along the way, we'll be exploring the science and wisdom of how our bodies work,
0:55.1	what makes us well, what gets in the way, and how we can live our best lives on our terms.
1:01.0	When it comes to women's health and well-being, there's nothing we won't talk about.
1:05.0	The new medicine for women is here. I'm Dr. Avivar Ram. Welcome to the podcast.
1:22.3	I recently had the most wonderful day. I woke up, read in bed with my husband. We went for a two-hour walk exploring the land around where we live, came home and assembled a 10-foot metal rack to hold our firewood,
1:28.7	then I made coffee and coconut macaroons and sat down to my computer for a few hours of
1:33.4	low-key work catching up on correspondence with friends and students and colleagues. And it was on a
1:39.4	Friday. Not a holiday, just a regular Friday. That's when I got inspired to share this story with you.
1:47.8	These days, it's my commitment to take one completely leisurely day each week, and in general,
1:54.0	to practice slow living more and step out of my tendency to fall into the constant pressures
1:59.2	of what's now sometimes called urgency culture and to pay
2:03.2	more attention to my hungry ghosts and shadows. More on that soon. First, I have a confession to make.
2:10.7	I haven't always been this way, and I'm still not always this way, though I am sharing my practice
2:16.6	today with you of how I'm trying to be
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