Hey friends and welcome to another episode of Tory Dealing With where each episode is short,

sweet and the perfect thing to enjoy in the morning, just like your coffee.

Raise your hand if you are a people pleaser.

I imagine that if we were all in the same room together there would be so many people with

their hands up.

It became very clear to me that many people also struggle with people pleasing, just like

I do, especially when I posted it on Instagram a few weeks back.

When you are a people pleaser, you have the tendency of putting others emotions first, having

weak boundaries in your life, and desiring approval.

I can check off every single box on that list.

I didn't realize how much of a people pleaser I was until I started seeing my life coach

in early 2020.

She noticed how I valued being liked, over speaking my truth.

She flagged me when she noticed that I had a hard time saying no to people, and she

heard me cry and vent when I talked about situations that I was in that made me feel really small.

So together we revisited these memories from my past and tried to pinpoint where and what

part of me people pleasing came from.

As I mentioned in earlier episodes, my parents had gotten a divorce when I was a kid and I

never expressed my sadness around the divorce to them.

Instead I was just deflect and use my energy to make people laugh and forget about the

chaos.

I remember my mom saying, Tore, you're so easy going.

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