Hello and welcome back to practicing human podcast where every day we're getting a little

better at life.

I'm your host, Corey Muscarra, and in today's episode we are going to talk about people

pleasing.

More on that in a moment, first let's settle in together with the sound of the bells.

Okay, this one goes out to all my people pleasers.

I definitely have some people pleasing tendencies in me, I don't think it says strong as some

of my other negative patterns, but I've noticed it more in recent years, and I've definitely

noticed that for many people this is quite a common and even defining pattern in their

life that actually causes a lot of distress because it forms the foundation of most of

their relationships, and when you're in a people pleasing dynamic, you're essentially

in a dynamic of self abandonment.

You are outsourcing your self worth and sense of okness to the praise of another, that

is contingent upon you acting a certain way, which if you don't get the praise for the

action, then you feel depleted afterwards, and even if you don't feel depleted because

you do get the praise that you wanted from the action, you end up just repeating the cycle

again at some point in the future, and it just keeps us in these loops with people where

we have to show up a particular way in order to get the thing that we think we need from

them, which translates into some form of perceived connection and love, but it's never actually

deep and satisfying and fulfilling, and we end up feeling drained, exhausted, depleted,

and disconnected in the process, and one of the reasons it can be hard to break the

pattern of people pleasing is because many of the relationships that you've built in

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