People Pleasing Killed Your Sexual Pleasure

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 16 December 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! ⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Try Timeline today! Text “EMILY” to 57237 and claim your FREE 3-day Trial of Gummies. Your cells will thank you! Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Chelsey Goodan—the teenage girl whisperer whose new book "Underestimated" is revealing what happens when we actually start listening to the demographic we've been underestimating for generations. The surprisingly simple question that gets teenage girls to open up after years of shutting everyone out—and why the adults in their lives have been approaching these conversations completely backwards (hint: it's the same reason your last "how was school today?" got a one-word answer). Why teenage girls can spot your hidden agenda from a mile away, and the radical honesty approach that creates trust faster than any parenting book you've read—even when you think you're being subtle with your "protective" white lies. The age that girls start dieting that will make you rethink every compliment you've ever given a child—and the unconscious behavior women are modeling that's sabotaging the next generation's relationship with their bodies before they even hit puberty. That thing you keep saying is "fine" when it's absolutely not fine, and how the people-pleasing patterns you picked up as a teenage girl are still running your sex life, your relationships, and every dinner party you've ever thrown. The connection between your relationship to sex and your actual power that nobody talks about—and why embracing your "weird" might be the permission slip you need to stop performing and start feeling. Plus: why giving girls agency doesn't mean abandoning your role as a parent, and the one body-related comment you should never make to a teenage girl, even when you think you're being helpful. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:24 - The Power of Radical Honesty in Building Trust 7:00 - Why Perfectionism and People-Pleasing Start in Teenage Years 11:44 - Sexuality, Consent, and the Double Standards Girls Face 18:14 - Slut-Shaming: How It Wounds Girls and What We Can Do 21:04 - Teaching Girls Their Anatomy: Why "Vulva" Matters 24:20 - Breaking the Cycle of Shame Around Sex 29:04 - Gen Z Friendships: Girls Supporting Girls Instead of Competing 32:35 - Healing Your Inner Teenage Girl as an Adult 38:43 - The Performance Trap: Why Girls Can't Get Out of Their Heads During Sex 43:09 - Overcoming Sexual Anxiety: Practical Advice for Women 46:24 - Body Image Wounds: How Moms' Self-Criticism Impacts Daughters

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1:25.3	A teenage girl is going to like you and open up to you and connect with you if she likes the way that she sees herself through your eyes.
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1:46.4	You're listening to Sex with Emily.
1:48.3	I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation
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