People Pleasing and When You Get Invited To Chilli's

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Relationships, Mental Health, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 12 November 2025

⏱️ 49 minutes

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RELATIONSHIP ACADEMY IS NOW ACCEPTING MEMBERS Totally free until the end of the year! Access to courses and coaching with the hosts themselves. CLICK HERE TO JOIN Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore the roots, costs, and recovery process of people pleasing, highlighting how it often stems from fear of conflict, guilt, or learned conditioning. The hosts discuss the emotional and relational toll—like resentment, burnout, and lack of authentic connection—while also offering practical tools to build awareness, set boundaries, and communicate needs more clearly. Ultimately, they emphasize shifting from guilt-based to values-based decision-making in relationships. Main Talking Points: Fear and guilt origins Childhood conditioning Emotional costs Boundary setting Practicing “soft no’s” Give Me Discounts! Cozy Earth - Black Friday has come early at Cozy Earth! Right now, you can stack my code “IDO” on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. These deals won’t last, so start your holiday shopping today! Beducate - Visit and use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass. Audible - Listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice Skylight - Get $30 off your 15 inch calendar. Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at Amazfit - Visit to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	So Lauren, I think I've officially peaked in the gift giving department.
0:04.4	Would you do this time another coupon for quality time?
0:08.0	No. Cozy Earth pajamas. Katie legitimately said, this is going to be my new personality.
0:14.0	Okay, well, I don't blame her on that at all. It's actually really funny. Chris and I literally bought each other cozy earth pajamas for Christmas last year.
0:22.4	And as we were opening our Christmas presents, we're like, wow, we literally got the same thing.
0:26.7	We got the same thing for each other. And okay, there's the blanket, the bubble cuddle one.
0:30.7	It's basically like emotional support in blanket form. We have this as well and literally fight over it during our movie nights. It's the
0:38.1	perfect weight. Cozy but not sweaty. Yeah. And we have the sheets too. And okay, here's a little
0:44.1	hack for all my guys out there. Get your wife good sheets for the bed, you know, so you can like
0:50.4	enjoy them. Okay. I'm not going to lie, that actually does go a long way.
0:55.7	Yeah, and they've got this 100-night sleep trial and a 10-year warranty, which is wild.
1:00.9	It's like, if you're not cozy in 2035, you can send it back.
1:05.3	And right now, Cozy Earth is doing an early Black Friday sale.
1:08.7	You can use our code I do for up to 40% off.
1:12.6	Yes, so please check them out.
1:14.1	Go to cozyearth.com slash I-do or use promo code I-do at checkout.
1:19.2	Yes.
1:20.0	Wrap the ones you love in luxury this year.
1:22.5	Cozy Earth.
1:23.3	And maybe grab yourself something too.
1:25.2	You deserve it.
1:39.6	Yeah. and maybe grab yourself something too. You deserve it. Hello and welcome to relationship advice.
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