I'm glad my mom died.

Is a statement that's generating a lot of reactions right now.

So Jeanette McCurdy is in the news right now.

You might know her from shows like I Carly and Sam and Cat on Nickelodeon

because she just released a new memoir titled,

I'm glad my mom died where she recounts her life as a child star as well as her relationship with her mother.

And online we've seen her receiving backlash from some people for one of two reasons. One, because of what she says around Ariana Grande and the other because she named

the book this. But the number of people saying, oh my God, that's so horrible and disgusting. That's

your mother. So obviously that sparked my interest. And I want to talk about it today because while I have

not finished it, I've started the book. And yeah, as a child of abuse and trauma, I think we need to normalize being vocal and open about us resenting or fucking hating our parents.

Right. So in the book, McCurdy talks about her mother who had breast cancer saying, you know, I always wanted to please her, make her happy.

But when she died in 2013, in hindsight, she realized, oh my God, my mother abused me in so many ways. Describing situations where her mom pushed and forced her into acting

at a young age, despite Jeanette hating it. With her mom always framing the situation as,

oh my God, you're so lucky that I'm letting you do this. I wished I could have done this as a kid,

but my parents didn't let me. Continuing to push herself as the hero of this situation,

even though Jeanette would just be sobbing because she couldn't quit and so she tried to convince her that no you love it

with McCurdy seemingly having just a chaotic home life early on in the book describing the situation where she just wanted to get out of that house her mom is slapping her dad at one point she grabs a knife it's just chaos that's just a small bit in addition to the other disturbing allegations including the fact that Jeanette says that even when she was eight years old, her mother insisted on wiping her behind after going to the bathroom because

she didn't trust Jeanette to do it correctly, and that her mother would shower her and give her

breast and front butt exams to check for cancer, which Jeanette dreaded, and she always felt

a huge wave of relief when they were done. A lot of the book also dealing with Jeanette

struggling with an eating disorder through much of her life, starting at just the age of 11 when her mom first encouraged her to limit food intake, telling Jeanette, if you really want to know how to

stay small, there's this secret you can do. It's called calorie restriction. And so when she was a

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