Chapter 1. Mindset is a Conversation, the power of self-talk.

You know, if you've talked to other people and you talk to your friends the way you talk to yourself, how would those relationships be? Now, I'm not judging you because I do the same thing and tell me if this sounds familiar. When I make a mistake in life or if I forget something without I travel, I don't say, oh, you forgot something, no big deal remember it next time. I say, you idiot, you always forget this stuff. Why do you do that? You never do anything right. And myself talk is very negative. And I thought about that one day, and I said, you know what, man? If you talk to other people, the way you talk to yourself, there isn't anybody in the world who wants to be around you. And if you think about it, the way you talk to yourself is going to influence the way you talk to other people.

If you're being negative to yourself and using negative words to talk to yourself, that type of language is going to seep out the way you talk to other people.

That's why conversations with yourself are so important and is fundamental to mindset.

I picked up a real good adage from marketers and they said, if you don't like the conversation,

change it.

The context of that was a little different and essentially that is dealing with brand strategy.

So imagine you work for Coke or Pepsi or some other company and you're under fire for something.

Environmental regulations have been violated.

The CEO is in a scandal.

You can address those scandals or you can completely change the subject and say, oh, well,

forget about our CEO being in a scandal.

We're doing all these great things for charity over here in Africa or we're building wells

and giving people clean water. That's what it means by changing the conversation. Just stop it. Well, the same

thing is true of you. If you're running yourself down, if you're using negative language

patterns to talk to yourself, well, you could try to fight against that or you could argue

with yourself, or why not just change the conversation?

I'll give you an example.

Let's say you didn't do as well as something as you thought you should have.

Or maybe you think that you failed at something.

You could run yourself down.

You could say that I'm a failure.

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