Parents who have disowned or genuinely stop loving your child, what happened? I disowned my father.

I don't believe it's nearly as difficult a decision as disowning a child, but it was tough.

I grew up in an upper middle class perfect nuclear family. My parents were high school

sweethearts. My dad was an operator in an oil refinery and my mom was an accountant turned stay-at-home

mom. I'm a middle child.

I have a three-year older brother and a three-year younger brother. When my older brother was about

10, my dad's drinking got out of hand and became extremely physically abusive. A few years later,

my mom divorced him after 23 years of marriage because she was afraid for our lives. My dad went

off the deep end,

started doing drugs, stealing, etc. Was involved in a few hit and runs. My older brother who had

received the brunt of the physical abuse was manipulated into a relationship with my dad for a few

years. To a lesser extent, so was I. He seemed to take an interest in us for the first time since we

were little, but in hindsight,

it was just more manipulation and gaslighting.

We won't go into all the details, but my brothers and I eventually got wind of just what kind

of sketchy stuff he was involved in.

My little brother and I, who both had aspirations to get into law enforcement, cut him out of

our lives completely.

My older brother took a while longer. He was a kid who always

just wanted his dad to love him, and so he was wearing blinders. He did eventually see the light

and cut my dad out as well. A few years ago, my dad was living with his mom. My grandma had been

manipulated by him for years, and they had a symbiotic, codependent relationship. She was a

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