Hey, it's Kelly, and at the end of every week, I like to share something true and useful,

something I stumbled over that gave me a burst of optimism, something you can share with

friends like an audio greeting card, something to help us all keep our eyes on what's working

and what could be.

So, I'll be right back with this week's For The Good of the Order.

This is Kelly Corgan Wonders.

So, I wanted to ask my friend Julie to come back on, and I want to do another one of these

exercises where I take to her a situation, and then we talk about what the right moves

are, what the most common moves are, and how they compare to what the very best moves

are.

So, hey, how are you?

I'm good, Kelly, how are you?

I'm good.

Okay, so, I want to talk about commitments, so your kid says I'm going to do this summer

job, or I'm going to join this team, or I'm going to partner with this person to run for

President and Vice President of my class, or I'm going to go to this event with my friends,

and then I get a better offer, or I'm going to tutor some local kid, or I'm going to

start doing tutoring for my chemistry class, and then they want to quit, or they do quit.

What are the common mistakes that people make in this moment, and then what should we

be doing?

Wow, I'm not sure I feel equipped to answer this, I will say this is where I want to do

the asterisk, like I'm not a parenting expert, I'm a former college dean who saw a problem

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