Hey dear listeners, today's guest is the amazing actress, screenwriter, producer,

and director Pamela Adlen, who you probably know from King of the Hill, California,

Cation, Louis, and her award-winning better things. Before we begin the episode, I want to tell you

how grateful I am for all of your letters and feedback. I always knew that the unqualified

community was comprised of some really cool and amazing people, and you continue to prove it to me.

So here are two of your letters. The first is from Jessica to Katie, who we called with fortune

femester. Katie, I am you, or should I say I was you. When I was 19, I got engaged to my high school

boyfriend. Behind closed doors, our sex life was mediocre. The household chores were incredibly

one-sided, me doing everything, and his lack of maturity was obvious. I was so blinded by the ring

on my finger and a new last name that I ignored all of these signs. I also ignored the warnings of my

family, my friends, my bridesmaids, even my maid of honor told me I shouldn't do it. Did I listen?

Of course not. I got married at 20. Soon I resented him, the house we had bought in our marriage

entirely. I hated being around him, hated it all. I finally pulled the plug and filed for divorce

after a year and a half. He seemed surprised, saying that I thought we were so happy. Like on

an unfortunate said, if both of you put in the effort, maybe you can turn things around but be wary.

It's hard. I'd recommend holding off on the wedding to give yourself time to think. Figure out if

you can make things right or if you should leave the relationship, you'll feel so much better in

the long run. My ex-husband would always say things like, oh in 20 years this won't matter,

and I would cringe. 20 years with him sounded dreadful. I should have listened to myself and to

everyone close to me. Who knew I wasn't happy before the I do's. Katie, my love and best wishes on

this endeavor. It is so hard to be in those shoes. I will say, I am now happily married to someone

else and we have two beautiful children. It gets better and it can be easy. All my love to you,

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