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Therapy in a Nutshell

Overthinking Part 3: How to Stop Depressive Rumination

Therapy in a Nutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness:mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.8658 Ratings

🗓️ 7 September 2022

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Want individualized support to stop dwelling on the past? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional counselor from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanuts... Depressive rumination is a type of overthinking where you create the habit of dwelling on the past. You rehash all the terrible things you can think of over and over and over. Depressive rumination says “Why is life so awful? Why am I such a failure? Why can’t I ever be happy?”. Rumination is like ruts in a road, whenever you’re not paying attention, you slip back down into thinking about all your regrets. But then you spin your wheels, you think and think but never get anywhere. One of my other clients, Elena, constantly dwelt in the past, she’d Ruminate like this “ Why did I buy this car? I’m such an idiot!” Or she’d say “Why am I so depressed?” and she’d worry about it for hours every day, for months. But she didn’t just dwell in the past, she projected it into the future. In session she’d often say “What if my depression never gets better?”. Another type of rumination is dwelling on how you were mistreated. Maybe your dad shamed you when you came out to him as gay, or your boss threw you under the bus at work, or your lover ghosted you, and you spend hours of your day wondering why they did that, alternating between resentment towards them and wondering if it was your fault. Rumination might also look like fantasizing about how your life could have been better if you had done things differently. Rumination contributes to depression, anxiety, and hopelessness. Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.co... Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanut... Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com?utm_medium=YTDescription&utm_source=YouTube Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/bes...  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/c... If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Therapy in a Nutshell podcast. I'm Emma McAdam, a licensed marriage and family therapist,

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and I believe therapeutic education can change lives and should be easily accessible to all.

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These podcast episodes are filled with a research-backed therapeutic education that you can start applying to your life today.

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If you like these episodes and you want to go into more

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depth on specific topics like how to process tough emotions, how to change your brain and build

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better relationships, or how to help support someone you know with a mental illness, then check out

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my classes at Therapy in a nutshell.com. Each podcast episode here comes from a corresponding

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video you can find on the Therapy in a Nutshell YouTube channel. Also, these podcasts are

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educational and don't replace the advice or direction you may be receiving from a therapist

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or other health professionals. Okay, let's jump into this week's skill. Seneca said, we suffer more

0:57.0

in imagination than in reality, and that is often the case with a very specific type of

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overthinking, depressive rumination. Depressive rumination is a type of overthinking where you

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create the habit of dwelling on the past.

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You rehash all of the terrible things you can think of over and over and over.

1:17.5

Depressive rumination says, oh, why is my life so awful?

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Or why am I such a failure?

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Or why can't I ever be happy?

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I had one 23-year-old client who will call Ivan, and his girlfriend broke up with him, and he just kept dwelling on it over and over years later. He'd say, oh, why couldn't I make that relationship work? Why couldn't I be better? I'm never going to find someone to love me. What's the matter with me? Why am I such a screw up? Now, rumination is like ruts in a road.

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Whenever you're not paying attention, you slip back into thinking about all of your regrets

1:50.0

and trying to analyze the situation to figure it out.

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But then you spin your wheels and you think and you think and you never get anywhere.

1:59.0

One of my other clients, Elena, she constantly dwelt in the past.

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