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The Overwhelmed Brain

Overcoming General Unease - When Nothing Works Out in Life - Questioning Trust in Relationships

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.52K Ratings

🗓️ 5 March 2017

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Are you walking around with an undertone of fear, anxiety, panic, or nervousness? What do you feel when nothing in general is happening in your life? What's your balance point or "homeostatic state"? When an uncomfortable or sad cloud follows you around all the time, it's hard to enjoy life. Especially because all the decisions you make are based on a foundation of this uncomfortableness. Many of us make decisions based on how the toxic people in our life will respond. If we know they'll respond negatively, we'll make a decision so that behavior isn't triggered. However, this choice may not be the best one for us. We make it to avoid conflict or confrontation, and that is a recipe for an unhappy life. I talk about "taking the bullet" and making the hard decisions during critical moments that will either exacerbate and extend miserableness or stop it in its tracks. It's a matter of shifting what you focus on and protecting yourself, not enabling others. This might not be easy to do, but it's a life changer. In segment 2, I read a letter from someone who shares that nothing has ever worked out for her in life. Everything she does leads to more pain and more toxic people. Nothing is good, and the future is grim. What do you do when all appears lost, and you're just basically waiting for death so that you can get out of the chaos? Especially if your past is littered with abuse and neglect. Your past is important and has played a role, but it doesn't mean you can't change how your future turns out. Your behavior today will either allow your problems to continue or cause them to shift so that you actually start creating the life you want instead of the one you don't want. It's never too late. If your life has been terrible up to this point, why not start over? It's never too late. Why wouldn't you want the rest of your time on earth to be pleasant, or at least peaceful? During the close of the show, I ask if you can stay in a relationship that you can't trust. What kind of trusting relationships do you build? Do you have trouble trusting others because you aren't completely honest with those you can trust? What you bring into your relationship is the relationship you end up with. If you bring mistrust, you'll get mistrust and untrusting behavior. Of course, there's always the chance that you are right not to trust, but there's a path to follow when that happens, too. I want you to come to a conclusion so that you can come to closure. Don't be stuck! Commit to one path or another.

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of that same old rehashed personal growth advice that all seems to boil down to,

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think positively and all your problems will go away.

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If affirmations feel like lies and positive thinking feels like denial, then I want you to get ready.

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The overwhelmed brain is here to help you create the life you want now. Hello this is Paul Coliani personal empowerment coach and hosts of this show I call

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the overwhelmed brain. This is the personal growth show for the Critical Thinker.

1:23.0

On every episode, we'll talk about practical down-to-earth steps

1:26.5

to help you improve your mood and keep you sane in this powerful journey we call life. I want to help you bridge the gap between your emotions

1:35.9

and reason, causing you to discover why you do the things you do and what you can do to reach

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higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress and

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overwhelm.

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