Hello and welcome to another episode of IWay with Jamila Jamil, a podcast against shame.

I hope you're well and I think you're going to enjoy today's chat and even though it's about a subject that is

really, really dark, which is domestic violence and the survival process, the way that my guest delivers it is so extraordinarily

relatable, empowering, warm, human and at times hilariously funny because she can't help herself.

Chelsea Dervantes is a comedian, she's a filmmaker, she's written for the problem with John Stewart.

Bless This Mess, Tina Fay's Girls Five Ever,

not dead yet.

And she's the host of the massively popular podcast

Glamorous Trash, where she invites her famous Hollywood friends to dissect

celebrity memoirs it's an exceptional podcast. She's so so special and she's now

written a memoir about her life called I shouldn't be telling you this but I'm going to anyway and it's all the different

trials of tribulations that she's gone through but I think a standout subject that a lot of people

want to talk to her about and I wanted to talk to her about because so many of you have asked me to cover the subject is domestic violence.

It's something that she experienced when she was younger, having also grown up in a household that had domestic violence in it.

We don't really talk about what happened and she'll explain why she can't say the exact details in this fascinating episode, but we mostly talk about the impact on your mind and what it does to you and your

perception of the world and the perception of yourself and how you how you grieve the time

that you feel like you've lost and also so importantly you know whenever I do

ask me anything I get questions from a lot of you asking me what do I do if my

friend in an abusive situation how do I help them how do I extract them and and I talk about that with

Chelsea in this episode which I think is so pivotal to hear it from a survivor as to what it is that she needed or would have needed from the people around her.

I think it's such a helpful lovely chat. I'm so grateful to her for sharing her story and for being so

personable with it and being able to have the courage to speak about these things that women are made to feel, women especially, but all people are made to feel somehow stigmatised about it. It doesn't make any sense.

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