Overcoming abuse & finding identity in Christ
Pardon the Mess with Scarlet Hiltibidal - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids
Scarlet Hiltibidal and Christian Parenting
4.9 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 17 October 2024
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
In this week’s episode, I have the honor of chatting with Reese - a college-aged friend that I adore. She bravely shares her testimony - one that involves abuse by a coach, a “not guilty” jury decision and God’s faithfulness through it all. Reese wanted to come on and share her story so that parents see that an authentic faith is often born from life’s toughest struggles.
When I asked Reese’s mom about this journey, this was her text to me.
“My daughter’s journey reminds us that God can use even our worst fears and redeem them. We can’t protect our kids from their testimony. God always takes what the enemy intends for evil for good. Maybe even their very purpose. Trusting him with their growth and process and pain. We were the parents with such tight controls. No sleepovers. No phones until HS. No ipads. Locked down YouTube. My control can’t protect her from everything.”
My favorite part is when she shares a story of how God spoke directly to her during some of the hardest parts of her story. It gave me chills and also great comfort. It reminded me that no matter what our kids face - they will never be alone. I can either get swallowed up with fear and the “what if’s” of parenting or I can make the choice to lean into faith and trust God has them. He has them in the best of times and the worst.
I am so excited for you to hear from an 18-year-old with a solid and authentic faith that wasn’t born out of a perfect life. Her faith is hers, it’s tested and it’s remarkable.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Reese’s story of abuse
- Authentic faith birthed through hardest times
- How she experienced God so personally
- Rees’s encouragement for parents
Enjoy,
Courtney
00:00
Introduction and Background
02:01
Impacting Children's Faith
04:18
Overcoming Abuse and Finding Identity in Christ
08:47
Timeline and Legal Proceedings
17:06
Experiencing God through Visions and Dreams
19:28
The Table of the Lord
27:50
Encouragement for Parents
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Resources from today’s show:
Reese’s ministry - Abundant Grace
God Made All Of Me - recommended book for littles
Untold - her favorite ministry in Africa
Ella’s purple dress from Amazon
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| 0:00.0 | Christian Parenting. |
| 0:08.0 | Welcome to Pardon the Miss. |
| 0:09.4 | I'm your host, Courtney DeFaio, and on this podcast, we talk about raising kids as Christian parents. |
| 0:14.2 | It's so very important for me to honor God with my family and the two kids that he's given me. |
| 0:18.6 | But honestly, it's not always neat or easy or tidy, |
| 0:22.0 | but it's always worth it. So join us every week to laugh and learn together on this beautiful |
| 0:26.2 | and messy journey of parenting. All right, friends, a couple episodes ago, who knows, I'm always lost in time. |
| 0:44.2 | I said, let's start doing game changers, like things that have changed the game in the Defeo house. |
| 0:48.0 | One of those is the stitch gun already linked to that. |
| 0:50.4 | We are loving it. |
| 0:51.3 | In fact, I used it on my buddy, Joel Jefferson. |
| 0:53.3 | The other day, we were in the |
| 0:54.5 | office of Christian parenting, and her dress needed some help. And so she's like, bring your stitch gun. |
| 0:59.4 | And, you know, I think she's sold. I'm making, I almost can't be a biblical reference. I'm making |
| 1:05.8 | disciples of stitch cut everywhere I go. That's terrible. But another thing I want to share with you is we love |
| 1:11.4 | dresses in the Defeo house. Like I'm obsessed. I just love a good dress. And so Ella was looking |
| 1:16.2 | for one for a wedding and didn't want something too nice and didn't want something too casual. And so |
| 1:20.9 | she looked and found it on Amazon. It's a one shoulder kind of ties at the waist, mid-level. It is gorgeous. It looks like a million bucks on her, |
| 1:28.6 | and I think it was 40 or 50 bucks maybe. So I'm going to link to that just if you're looking for a |
| 1:32.2 | cute dress for this fall or holiday season. They've got it lots of different colors. So from one |
| 1:38.5 | mom to another, I got you covered on this cute dress. So today's episode is with a girl that I love named Reese, |
| 1:45.4 | and she is the daughter of one of my dearest friends. And I know this family really well. And we |
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