Over-Doer, This is Why You Get Snarky -- Hidden Obstacle to Relationship Satisfaction
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Lisa A. Romano
4.8 • 806 Ratings
🗓️ 25 November 2022
⏱️ 10 minutes
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Summary
Are you an overdoer? Are you running on empty? Do you worry about people and then get upset when they don't worry about you? If so, you're not alone. Those of us who have difficulty speaking our truth can find it easier to take care of others than to care for the self. And while on the surface, this seems like an endearing quality, it is a recipe for relationship disaster. Listen in as Life Coach and Codependency Recovery Coach Lisa A. Romano gets honest about what makes her snarky and how her development journey can help you acknowledge a quality in yourself that might need some improvement too.
Lisa A. Romano is a Life Coach, meditation teacher, and bestselling author who is changing how victims of emotional abuse and neglect overcome subconscious limiting beliefs through her flagship course, The 12-Week Breakthrough Coaching Program. Her online codependency recovery program offers a sound methodology that allows students to take immediate action they benefit from. Her framework supports self-inquiry through a practical, organized, distilled, proven process that results in mental clarity, emotional responsibility, peace of mind, and life skills that foster self-empowerment. Her experiential wisdom, actionable tools, and proven systems and processes have assisted adult children of alcoholics, and those wounded in childhood, to find the courage to live life on their terms instead of remaining in toxic relationships and perpetual states of self-abandonment that mirror painful childhood experiences. Her program is offered live with one-to-one coaching and as a self-paced course. The next live course launches in February 2023
https://www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp
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| 0:00.0 | So today, we're talking to the overdoers who end up feeling resentful when people don't |
| 0:06.0 | think about them in return. |
| 0:07.8 | So today I want to explore what happens to someone who is highly codependent, who |
| 0:13.0 | overdoes, and who finds time to take care of everybody else but themselves, and who is |
| 0:19.3 | running on empty, and who is often unaware and in denial that |
| 0:24.1 | they are codependent. |
| 0:25.9 | One of the cornerstones of codependency is denial. |
| 0:29.1 | We don't know that we have tremendous shame. |
| 0:32.2 | We don't know that we need to be needed. |
| 0:34.8 | We don't know that we rescue. |
| 0:37.3 | We don't know that we over-emopathize with people. |
| 0:40.3 | We don't know that we don't know where the boundary line is. We don't know that we don't know how to say no. |
| 0:47.3 | We just live in a world that has us feeling lots of things for other people, and our propensity is to jump in and fix |
| 0:57.1 | people's lives. And we are unaware that in terms of our psychology and our perception of |
| 1:05.2 | self, we don't know that our self identity, who we think we are, is a rescuer. |
| 1:12.1 | Now again, what makes this very complicated is that you can be a fixer and not know it. |
| 1:18.8 | You can be a rescuer and not know it. |
| 1:21.4 | You can be highly empathic and being taken advantage of and not know it. |
| 1:27.3 | You can be someone who is a people |
| 1:29.3 | pleaser, someone who is just hell-bent on enabling people and thinking that you're |
| 1:35.2 | doing the right thing and not know it. This is how all of us are. We all are born into a field |
| 1:42.9 | and we are all unconscious until we become more conscious. We all are born into a field and we are all unconscious until we become more |
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