I amla. I've been very open about the fact that I was not always good and making my

relationships work. I have been divorced three times twice from the same person. In other words, I have seen a lot and failed a lot in my relationships.

So I am here to share with you what I learned along the way because I did take copious notes.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. I have a confession and my confession is this I'm right and they're wrong. I am right and they are wrong. Have you ever felt that way?

I am right and they are wrong. Always.

Have you ever felt that way? Always.

Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever felt that the person you are looking at is just totally off their rocker

because they can't see it the way you see it. They don't hear it the way you hear it.

And when you try to impose your rightness upon them, they go into resistance and defense.

Yeah, happens.

Happens all the time in relationships.

The way I think about it is this.

At the center of each of us there's a core there's a thing it's like

an onion people think that it's the the layers in the onion that make the onion

stink make the onion make you cry.

No, no, no, no, no, it's that core all the way down deep inside that makes your eyes run water when you cut that onion open.

And what we fail to realize is every onion smells different.

We just think the onion is going to make us cry and it's going to smell bad. No, every onion is different.

In other words, what's in your core is not the same as what's in somebody else's core and while your core makes

you right their core has a totally different scent, which means they're going to see it

different, they're going to feel it different, they're going to hear it different.

Here's the thing. You've got to understand that everybody has a right to their core.

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