Oral Dealbreaker and MAGA Projective Identification
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.5 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 20 March 2026
⏱️ 76 minutes
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00:00 What goes into a dealbreaker around pleasure? 19:41 OPP
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| 0:00.0 | So, Berto, we have a bunch of emails that patrons and YouTube members have emailed in asking us questions. |
| 0:07.9 | Let's read those emails and then attempt at answering them. |
| 0:13.1 | What do you say? |
| 0:13.8 | I love it. |
| 0:14.6 | Let's do it. |
| 0:15.1 | This is the Psychology in Seattle podcast and YouTube channel. |
| 0:18.3 | My name is Dr. Kirk Honda. |
| 0:19.8 | I am a therapist, a professor, and an email |
| 0:22.6 | answerer. Who are you, Berto? My name is Umberto Cassignia, and I package and sell grapes |
| 0:27.8 | fruits. So first email from listener Yeva from Los Angeles, she says, hello, it is a crucial |
| 0:36.7 | relationship deal breaker that my partner enjoys performing oral sex. |
| 0:43.5 | It is a crucial relationship deal breaker that my partner enjoys performing oral sex. |
| 0:49.7 | It is the only way I can reliably orgasm. |
| 0:53.4 | And even if this were not the case, I would still prefer to be with someone who desires my |
| 0:57.8 | body in that way because for me, oral sex is really the most pleasurable experience |
| 1:02.0 | I can imagine. |
| 1:04.0 | At the start of our relationship, my current boyfriend said he wasn't interested in oral, |
| 1:09.3 | but he also said that he had never tried it. |
| 1:11.4 | So I informed him it was a deal breaker, but if you would try it and like it, then we could |
| 1:17.2 | continue dating. And he tried it, and he said he liked it. So I thought we had moved past that |
| 1:22.1 | issue. We fell madly in love over the following months, and we had a great sex life, mainly because I felt comfortable. |
| 1:31.5 | I didn't orgasm any time other than during oral, so I orgasmed infrequently, but he performed when I asked him to, so I was satisfied. |
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