Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelly here.

And today we are closing out this week's episodes on giving yourself permission to stop.

And we are talking about settling.

Today's episode is deep.

We are going to talk about how to stop settling in your personal life. This conversation is

beyond overdue and it's what I'm going to keep talking about. Because if there's one place that I feel chronically black

women settle in, it's in their personal life. And I love you all. And so because of that, we got to

talk about it. We got to talk about why we are able to excel at a career or at minimum get paid good money.

We're able to start businesses, build empires, look fabulous while doing it, take care of our family, balance all kinds of responsibilities, be the strong one, quote

unquote. And then in all of our A plus plus fabulous amazing glory, we go and date the most mediocre

mid-human being you've ever seen. And I'm sorry, but we got to talk about why we're doing that.

What types of mindsets are we stuck in that is making us feel like I'm A-plus in every area of my

life. And yet I am attracting and accepting, most importantly, accepting mediocre partners who cannot match me in any sense of the word.

I told you that we've messaged a lot in our community that black women should by default settle, that we should just be happy as a society and a culture with whatever scraps

we get. And I find that women in general are conditioned to settle, but black women often settle

for a couple of reasons when it comes to romantic partnership. One is that sometimes we settle

because we don't genuinely think there's better.

There's a scarcity mindset when it comes to partners, particularly for heterosexual couples.

This seems to be a phenomenon.

But certainly for everyone this happens.

And secondly, we settle because we feel it's a cultural expectation that somehow settling

makes us a savior.

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