Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelly here.

And today I want to talk about revenge.

I want to talk about how you opt out of revenge and opt into

your own healing. This episode is going to be a little similar to the episode I did on

Opt Into Forgiveness. But we're going to talk about a little with a little more nuance the feelings that come

when you want revenge, what is at the root of it, why people want revenge, and how to let go of

that and opt into your own healing. Also, this episode has come about because I've been seeing a lot of in the media people

telling their stories or people contributing to culture and coming from a place of being wronged

and wanting in the effort to correct the wrong, perhaps engaging in

an act of revenge is the best way to say it. And what do I mean when I say revenge? I mean that,

so I want to make a distinction between revenge and accountability. Let's start there before we go any further.

Accountability is telling someone what they have done that has wronged you or what you observe,

let's say that someone has done that is wrong. It is making people responsible for their part that they may play in either hurting

your feelings or creating a situation that's unkind or unhealthy or toxic. Accountability is also

coming from a place of, in some ways, love. It is about whether it's love for humanity or love for yourself.

Accountability is absolutely tied to love. You want to make someone accountable because you want

to give them an opportunity to change or you want to give them an opportunity to acknowledge a

wrong. You also make someone accountable because of the impact it's had on you

and it's worth discussing or bringing to the forefront.

That's accountability.

Revenge is a little different.

Well, honestly, it's a lot different from accountability.

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