Welcome to Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelly here. And I want to close out our week thinking about the concept of having it all.

We started the week talking about soft success and how to define it for yourself

and how that's really the theme of this month is to really zone in on what is a successful life,

how do you define it, and how can you achieve everything you dream of softly?

We then talked about in the middle of the week, the concept of self-esteem and a little bit of money and how it's those two things together that I really think are superpower for a woman to have.

And that once you have a combination of self-worth, knowing what's valuable to you, knowing what

you want to protect in yourself and the people around you and showing up to the world as someone

who values themselves, once you've got that in combination with financial stability and

health and a wealthy life, a little bit of money, you are unstoppable.

And today I want to talk about how to then balance all of that with this concept of having it

all. This is controversial and there are people who are going to tell you you can't have it

all. There are people who can tell you you can have it all.

And I'm going to take a stance and say, I think we should opt out of the goal being to have it all.

And I want to tell you how I envision that and what I mean by that. And that me telling you that you can't have it all is not

meant to be discouraging or to stop you from going and chasing your dreams. It's about a reframe

of how we define having it all that sometimes having it all isn't a healthy pursuit and it can

have you locked in struggle and self-bentrail trying to get to it

all. Instead, I want to talk about how to opt into having the things that you value near and dear to

yourself, how to achieve the goals that really matter, and get away from the language of having it all.

I just think it can be really dangerous and it toes a line between hustle culture and encouraging you to push and push and push.

And also usually the people saying those kinds of phrases are pushing an aesthetic and a lifestyle

that just isn't practical for the everyday person. And I could go on a rant about that,

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