Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast.

Kelly here.

And today I want to talk about romance and how to opt into living a romantic life.

This episode today is all going to be about falling in love but it's not going to

matter whether you're in partnership or not.

It's going to be primarily focused on how to inject more romance into your life and how to do

that through a place of loving self in a healthy, beautiful, and expressive way.

If you are in partnership, however, this episode is going to be great for you because even with the most healthy, beautiful, connected partnerships, loving yourself and building a romantic life with yourself first can only enhance the relationship.

There is nothing more attractive than a partner that you love,

loving themselves fully, taking care of themselves, beaming and feeling good. It makes them

even more attractive. So adding romance into your life is irregardless of partnership.

It will only enhance a partnership if you have it.

And if you are single, it's going to make you love being single and all the more ready to receive love from a partner if you are looking for that in your life.

I also love talking about love and romance because I feel like it is part of our inheritance

as black women and when you opt out of struggle, you inherit, you have access to your inheritance of love a lot quicker,

and you deserve more love in your life. As black women, I feel like we are often denied

depictions of healthy love, whether it's in partnership or with

self, a lot of the things that are portrayed in media are love born out of trauma, love born out of

dysfunction. And because of that, we often think about romance as secondary to our journey

and survival as at the forefront. I can only speak for myself and say that I was always a deeply, deeply, deeply hidden and undercover romantic, but a huge one.

And I never expressed that side of the myself often because I felt like it would make me

vulnerable to attack from others and to be taken advantage of.

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