Online Perfection, Offline Pressure 🥵 Moving to London & Mental Health Struggles w/ TobysHome

Happy Healthy Homo

Joel Wood & Keegan Hirst

Gay, Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Lgbt, Lgbtq, Lgbtq+, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.8 • 779 Ratings

🗓️ 23 July 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Going to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. Our paid partner BetterHelp makes therapy simple, with 10% off your first month to help you get started: https://betterhelp.com/happyhealthyhomo

This week we’re joined by husbands, homemakers, and content creators Toby & Mikey — better known as ⁨@Tobyshome⁩ You’ve probably swooned over their stunning interiors and cosy online presence… but behind the perfect posts was a very different reality.

We talk about their big move from rural life to London, the mental health struggles that followed, Mikey’s recent health scare, and what it’s really like to build a brand (and a life) together online. From burnout and boundaries to balance and breakthroughs, this one gets real.

🎙️ Topics include:

– Moving to London and starting over

– Navigating mental health as a couple

– The pressure of perfection on social media

– Working together without losing yourself

– What it takes to show up authentically online

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0:00.0	Kate's just off to work after sleeping in the best bed in the business.
0:04.0	And my word, doesn't she look ready for anything?
0:07.0	Something about her smile is just brighter.
0:10.0	Her eyes seem glintier, and she just feels so much more...
0:15.0	Catea? Of course it's no surprise really, because last night she slept at Premier Inn,
0:20.0	and she got up to
0:21.5	15% off with business booker get better sleep for your money premier in rest easy t's and
0:28.9	see is apply hey homos welcome back to Happy Healthy Homo.
0:39.3	I'm still Keegan.
0:40.2	And I'm still Joel.
0:41.2	And we are still boyfriends.
0:43.2	We are.
0:43.7	Just after all the episodes we've been recording of this.
0:47.4	But before we get into this episode, we just want to take a moment to talk to you about our paid partner of this episode, which is BetterHelp.
0:53.5	So for me, I have
0:54.8	struggled with burnout throughout my career online. I, for some of you, if you don't know,
1:00.7	if you just watch the podcast, I've been a content creator online for the last 10 years,
1:05.3	eight years of doing it as my solo job, the only job I have. And it is the best job in the
1:10.7	world. I can't
1:11.4	complain. I absolutely love it. But there are times where I get absolutely burnt out with
1:17.1	sharing my entire life on the internet, sharing my life, now sharing my relationship, having a
1:22.8	podcast, having different platforms, dealing with people's opinions, the trolls that a barrage of hate I get
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