Opening up your girls. One Night Stans versus Casual versus Long Term. So your thoughts should you have different approaches for each? I think this is a question for us, girls.

Well, so what he's getting at, because obviously this is a question from a guy is when he talks about opening a woman up, making her feel heard and understood.

In other words, how much effort, how much time should

you invest opening up a girl that you're just hooking up with versus somebody you're in a long-term

relationship? And the reality, as I discussed in 3% man, is that it creates rapport with

everybody when you ask questions, when you take a sincere, authentic interest in other people.

And this is like basic sales skills 101, not just with women, but just with men, with just people in general.

It's like when you take the time to ask them questions and listen to them and get them to answer the kind of questions they would enjoy answering, it makes us feel like the other person asking the questions actually cares for us.

And so, I mean, at the end of the day, we might want to feel a connection with a guy and that happens through talking through him taking the

time to open her up to listen to her to see where she's at because as you do that and as a woman

starts to feel safe and comfortable whether it's a first date or date number 20 after dating several months, the process is the same. As the

formula goes and the nice mugs that we have, hang out, have fun, hook up. It means hang out,

create a date, and while you're on the date, you want to have fun, and you do that through

talking and communicating, getting her to open up. It's the same process date, you want to have fun, and you do that through talking and

communicating and getting her to open up. It's the same process. Whether you want to seduce her that

night, or it's our first date or your first get-together, or it's date number 20. It's the same

process. Because as a woman feels heard and understood, she feels safe and comfortable, she likes

you, you're not saying stupid things to make yourself look unattractive or weak or like

a beta male and you're letting her talk, it makes her feel like you care. I mean, this is all

human beings this happens with. That's why it's so powerful for guys that are in sales and

they learn this stuff is it it works and so you have to

take the time to get to know who she is and if you do that you'll notice eventually she typically

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