Hello and welcome to the Therapy Edit Podcast with me Psychotherapist Anna Martha.

I'll be bringing you weekly 10 minute episodes to encourage and support your emotional well-being.

Hi everyone, I hope you are okay.

So for today's episode I want to focus in a little bit more depth on something that I've touched on a few times

in previous episodes, but I just kind of want to delve a little bit more deeply into something that feels so taboo to talk about

rage, motherhood, rage. I think it's to be because the caricature I guess of a mom is kind of

patient and calm and nurturing and just lovely and yet when I feel rage it is the utter, utter opposite of that. It is red, angry, ugly, explosive, uncontained, or it is just pushed down that simmering kind of passive

aggressive, all that feeling that just, it's an energy, isn't it?

Do you find rage feels like an energy because I guess it is and I think the reason there is so much to be

around rage in motherhood is that it does conflict with how either we want to be or we

thought we would feel as a mum and when something is to be

to be often then it is surrounded by shame that feeling of guilt

self-judgment self-criticism and when we feel shame around something we're far less likely to talk about it and

address it. Now I have spoken to so many mums over the last couple of years when we've

been in the pandemic we've been through different lockdowns and like reflecting my own experience I have

heard so many mums say to me I've never felt so angry I have never felt so angry, I have never felt so

rageful. So you're not alone if in the last couple of years you felt that kind of

that red-hot, simmering, oh that rage kind of bubbling away or exploding out.

And I recall this moment in one of the lockdowns, one of the home learning lockdowns and I think I messaged my husband who was upstairs working in the spare

room and I said to him I'm I'm going to blow like I need I need to swap out for a minute I need to just get out

get outside and he didn't he didn't read the message and I think it was about 20 minutes later this

rage kind of bubbled over in me and I just stood in the kitchen I think two out of three of the kids were crying or whining. I can't remember, but I just remember it was like a volcano. It was like this volcanic eruption of rage and I stood and I remember the hob I was boiling past her and I just went

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