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The Therapy Edit

On people-pleasing less and living more

The Therapy Edit

Anna Mathur

Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.9915 Ratings

🗓️ 29 November 2021

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

If you exist at the bottom of the priority list, and find that 'yes' rolls off the tongue a little easily, this episode is for you!

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0:00.0

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0:30.0

Hello and welcome to the Therapy Edit Podcast with me Psychotherapist Anna Martha.

0:37.0

I'll be bringing you weekly 10 minute episodes to encourage and support your emotional well-being.

0:45.0

Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the therapy edit.

0:50.0

I did a coaching session the other day and this little phrase kind of popped out my mouth and it stayed with me.

0:59.5

Do you ever do that? You just say things. They just come out of your mouth from somewhere inside the back of your mind and then you take no tith and you think, oh, that's really interesting when to think about that further. Anyway, it was a little sentence that kind of surprised me because it doesn't sound like something I would say. So it was less giving more living.

1:29.2

I said how about doing less giving more living? And I think the reason it kind of jarred with me in one way is

1:36.2

because historically I am a people pleaser. I call myself a people pleaser in recovery. My knee jerk reaction with pretty much everything

1:46.8

is to do what will make someone else happy. Now there's nothing wrong with that, there's nothing wrong with that there's nothing wrong with wanting to please people and wanting to give of yourself

1:59.3

But I think what my client in this coaching session and myself had in common was that in

2:06.7

living where your first response is just to give almost to give unquestioningly, almost, you know, just the saying yes, the giving

2:17.5

without question, the giving without boundaries, it's actually taken and robbed from us in ways that kind of

2:28.4

stop us living and actually I think that's what people pleasing is. It's the giving without the boundaries.

2:37.0

So when I say less giving, more living, it's just about building that awareness of what are you giving? What is it costing you?

2:47.7

If your knee jet reaction is just to say yes and give of your resources.

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