On how to stop fearing failure
The Therapy Edit
Anna Mathur
4.9 • 915 Ratings
🗓️ 2 August 2024
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
The Uncomfortable Truth: Change Your Life By Taming 10 of Your Mind's Greatest Fears is Anna's 5th book and is set for publication on the 8th August!
Pre-order your copy here and have it delivered straight to your door on publication day.
Here's a teaser from Anna about what to expect in this long-awaited, transformative book.
‘Some people don’t like me”
“Bad things will happen to people I love”
“I’m going to fail”
… these words underpinned my anxieties and nightmares. I bet they feature in yours too.
Our fears are anchored in the unavoidable truths of life; all things reach an end, bad things happen, and we lack the control we crave.
As an experienced psychotherapist, who’s had years of therapy, I realised that ploughing endless energy into trying to control the uncontrollable is keeping us all tired, wired, and worried. Ignoring fears doesn’t make them less true, it makes them more powerful. I decided to try a different tact and it changed my world.
Instead of doing everything I could to ease and avoid life’s uncomfortable truths, I sought a deeper acceptance of them. Through using this approach, my clients and I discovered that fear began to loosen its grip. We were living more intentionally and peacefully.
So, face your fears one a chapter at a time, and discover who you are without worry, doubt and people-pleasing holding you back.
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| 0:20.0 | Hello and welcome to the Therapy Edit Podcast with me Psychotherapist Anna Martha. |
| 0:27.0 | I'll be bringing you weekly 10 minute episodes to encourage and support your emotional well-being. |
| 0:33.4 | Hi everyone, this is a little 10 minute episode where I'm going to be talking about failure. |
| 0:40.2 | And this is taken straight from my brand new book, The Uncomfortable Truth, which is out on August the 15th, |
| 0:46.0 | and I'm going to read some words from that book for you, but we're talking in this series all about the 10 uncomfortable truths and in the first episode which was |
| 0:57.2 | last week we spoke about how to become a little bit more accepting of the fact that some people don't like you and that's okay. And if we find ways to make |
| 1:07.5 | these uncomfortable truths a little bit more okay, it actually really frees this up. Now, the one that we're going to be talking about today is chapter two and it's the uncomfortable truth, the fact that I am going to fail. You are going to fail. But before I share some words with you, I'd love you to think about how |
| 1:27.6 | differently you would feel if you felt more accepting of this uncomfortable truth. I believe it would challenge |
| 1:34.7 | perfectionism and fear because you try more things and failure and to fail wouldn't be |
| 1:40.9 | that same shaming statement of, I am a failure, because you'd be more accepting. |
| 1:47.8 | A failure is just a part of doing and it doesn't mean that you're a bad person it just means that that |
| 1:54.0 | didn't go so well and which I think is really really powerful because we take more |
| 1:59.8 | steps forwards and if we weren't seeking perfectionism and if anything less, this has definitely been true for me in the past. |
| 2:08.0 | I've challenged perfectionism so much in recent years, but for me, if something wasn't perfect, I would feel like a failure, not like I'd failed, |
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