Hello and welcome to the therapy edit podcast with me psych therapist Anna Martha.

I'll be bringing you weekly 10 minute episodes to encourage and support your emotional well-being.

Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the therapy edit.

As I was just thinking about what to bring you for this episode I open my phone don't we so often do that in the spaces we fill the spaces with a scroll or a read or a flick through news articles but I open my phone and I open the notes because

I don't know about you my life is pretty ruled by notes and reminders and I tend to just jot things down so that I don't forget

them and I open my notes and I must have written this kind of last night just as the kids were going to

bed and it says to admonish the pursuit of doing it all in the name

of love is an act of love itself. And I think I wrote that on reflection, probably as the kids were watching CBBs,

about how much I do, do, do, do do do in the name of love how much I set my standards in a certain place in the name of doing it well.

In the way that I just constantly am busying my self around the house in pursuit of providing a nice environment I can for my family. You know how often I put my

own needs aside, how often I put my own needs aside, how often I prioritize other people, other people's feelings, other people's needs, the admin even sometimes

just over my own needs and feelings.

And how I do that, or that comes from a place in my heart of wanting to love well.

And I think as I ran around sorting stuff out probably cleaning the floor down sorting stuff out for the next day

as the mornings are just so chaotic getting everyone ready for school getting everyone out

the house you know my kids were sitting on the sofa and they were watching TV and those moments before they went to bed.

And as I was doing all of that stuff clocking up the old steps on the on the Apple watch,

I was thinking I'm doing it all in the name of love. I'm doing it all out of the best intention, the best place. My kids are sitting on this sofa. They are sitting there together and what do they need?

What would they benefit best from? Probably more of me.

Yet here I am doing in the name of love when actually those people that we love the people that we are so often doing the doing for

what we just want more of us to be and I think I'm not alone in the fact that I have learned that to love is to do, to love is to give, to love is to prioritize, to love is to be sacrificial, to love is to aim high, to love

as to want more for those that you love. And to often then be the one that is trying to get that more for them

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