On this episode of Narciss Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Olia, and Olia was in a controlling relationship with a calculated abuser.

It's a story of insecurities, gender transitioning, manipulation tactics, panic attacks, physical abuse, and escape plans.

Music attacks, physical abuse, and escape plans. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick and with me today is Olia. How are you?

I'm doing great, Brandon. I'm happy to talk with you. Well, thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Olia is today, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com.

Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form. When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest form page.

There's lots of instructions there, everyone. There's lots of them. Please read them all and then either send me an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com

or just fill out our guestworm page and press the submit button. And please do send me everything

in the format that is asked for on that page. And there's a trigger warning on this episode as we do discuss physical

abuse in this episode. And also, uh, the person who the story is about today also had threats

of suicide as well. So if this is not for you, trigger warning, please don't listen to this

episode. And now, without further ado, Olia, the floor is now yours.

Thank you so much, Brandon.

I'm just going to jump in with a few pieces of information regarding my story.

So my ex-girlfriend is a trans woman, and she transitioned while we are in our relationship.

So for any listeners who aren't so familiar with that language, when she was born, she was

identified as a man.

And when I first met my abuser, I used he pronouns to describe

him. During my story, I'm going to refer to that time using the pronouns they, which is more

neutral. And after the transition in the story, I will use the pronoun shti.

So you will know the difference when I'm talking about one time if I'm using they and the other time I'm using she.

And then when I use the word dead name, I'm referring to the name that they used when I first met them. And when I

referred to the name, Kay, I'm referring to her now. So a little bit about just my background.

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