Octavia & The Victim Playing Narcissist - Narcissistic Abuse, Domestic Violence, Coercive Control

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🗓️ 23 October 2023

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

Octavia came from Colombia to the United States via the Au Pair program. While on a weekend trip, Octavia fell in love with a charismatic volunteer firefighter. He said all the right things and made Octavia feel special. She felt chosen. However, the whirlwind romance eventually turned into an abusive marriage. First, it was the rages, then the gaslighting, then the physical abuse, and to make sure she never left, Octavia's now husband used her undocumented status to abuse her even further. It's a story of proving yourself, guilt, gaslighting, victim playing, putdowns, rages, immigrant abuse, threats, financial abuse, divorce, post separation abuse, the hope for change, addiction, isolation, shame, vulnerability, using children as weapons, crazy exes, and validation. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. Thank you to our sponsor FACTOR. To get delicious fresh healthy meals delivered to your door and ready in 2 minutes, go to Factor at https://www.factormeals.com/nap50 and use promo code NAP50 to get 50% off. Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Octavia,
0:07.4	and Octavia was married to a victim playing narcissistic abuser.
0:11.7	It's a story of immigration abuse, the hope for change, rages, guilt, gaslighting, and financial abuse.
0:49.5	Music guilt, gaslighting, and financial abuse. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick and with me today we have Octavia. How are you?
0:58.2	I'm good, Brandon. How are you? I am doing well and thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Octavia is today, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. At top of the page,
1:04.6	there's a button that says guest form. When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest
1:08.2	form page. There you can read all of our instructions and either send us an email at Narcissistapocalypse.g.com or fill out our guest form and press
1:16.0	the submit button and please do send it in the format that we ask for. Please do keep on sending in your
1:21.8	stories. We need more stories for everyone to learn from and to get validated from. So please send in your stories if you
1:30.0	want to share your story and help our community. And for today's episode, we do have a content
1:35.4	warning as we do discuss physical abuse in this episode. So that is your content warning right
1:42.3	there. And today's story, we're going to be doing a hybrid today.
1:46.6	It's kind of a little bit of a Q&A at the beginning here before we get into Octavia's story.
1:53.2	And this story of Octavia has a lot to do with immigration abuse.
1:58.2	How that becomes part of her story.
2:02.7	It's not all of her story, but it's something that we haven't really covered on our show before. So I'm just going to get into a little bit
2:07.2	about how dangerous it is for new immigrants into just a new country and being taken advantage
2:14.4	of and how vulnerable they can be on top of, you know,
2:18.5	the vulnerability for a lot of people that are in abusive relationships.
2:22.7	There's just this added layer when it comes to being a new immigrant.
2:26.6	And I'm about to get into a lot of that information before we get to talking to Octavia
2:31.4	and hearing her story today.
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