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Yes, I do.

This first one, I have a lifelong

pattern of attracting toxic female friends and have recently begun taking steps to break this cycle.

When I say toxic, I mean people who are so incredibly draining to be around because they're

either incredibly self-centered or extremely negative and can't seem to get

out of victim mode no matter how much I try to help. The kind of people who, when we hang out,

will ask how I'm doing, but immediately shift the focus to them and keep it there for the entire

time we're visiting. I have a difficult time cutting these friends off completely because, for one, many of whom

have been in my life a long time, and two, I don't want to hurt their feelings. However, I've

recently been guided that eliminating these draining friendships is the healthiest thing for me.

I'm certain of that, but how do I do it? I've tried pulling back, setting boundaries, limiting our time

together, being slow to respond to text, but this has caused them to reach out even more,

like they can feel me pulling away. I find myself asking what's the kindest thing to do here.

Should I be honest and tell them how draining and one-sided I find our friendship

to be? Perform a cord cutting and hope for the best. Is ghosting really that unkind in this situation?

This is so hard for me and I'd love your input. Thank you. I think this applies to so many people

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