Listen, you can have perfect dows, a jaw-dropping venue, and 300 people clapping at your kiss,

and still be divorced in your heart by year two.

Because the world prepares you for a moment, but Christ prepares you for a cross.

You're planning the day that will bring you both together in marriage, But did you prepare for the life together while

married? We've actually worked with thousands of other couples, premaritally, and many didn't expect

marriage to be this hard. Many even say that their strength is communication. But what we want to do

is make you aware of three core areas that we see engaged couples neglect before marriage.

So you don't have to have such a hard time after the honeymoon.

All right. Number one, he just said it. Communication.

You might be thinking, okay, we have that down. That's strength for us.

And most couples we talk to say that communication is their strength. Then it changes

soon after their wedding. So why is this? That in love feeling, it's called infatuation,

and it's driven by a cocktail of chemicals like dopamine, neuropreneffron, and oxytocin,

and studies show that this stage lasts anywhere from 12 to 24 months.

And then after that, your brain literally stops producing the same intensity of those chemicals.

So in other words, your brain is literally designed to overlook flaws during the in-love stage.

And your prefrontal cortex is responsible for judgment and critical thinking, which is the same

part you use to assess risk or spot red flags.

Your brain was blinding you on purpose. So why is that? It's really to form a strong enough

bond to get you guys committed. But once that phase fades, reality kicks in. And that's when

real love built on truth and trust has the chance to take root. And so now all that brain

science is really us trying to describe why couples don't spend more time talking about communication

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