Not everyone is going to agree with the decisions you make for yourself

Love and Abuse

Paul Colaianni

Mental Health, Lies, Emotional, Health & Fitness, Psychological, Society & Culture, Deception, Manipulation, Narcissism, Verbal, Abuse, Relationships

4.6 • 816 Ratings

🗓️ 25 June 2020

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

What happens when you create a show about abusive behavior? You hear from people that aren't happy that they are being called out on that behavior. On today's episode, I read a letter from someone that thinks I'm dangerous and should find other things to do with my time. This is a special episode for both the abuser and the victim.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.
0:07.4	You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
0:10.9	That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.
0:18.6	I'm your host, Paul Koliani.
0:31.2	Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to another episode of love and abuse.
0:33.4	And as a reminder, all information on love and abuse is meant for educational purposes only.
0:38.3	Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being.
0:42.4	And I'm so glad I say that at the beginning of every episode because it's bound to happen that someone is not going to like what I talk about on the air.
0:54.3	Someone is going to send me hate mail or give me a critical review of what I talk about.
1:02.5	And it doesn't happen often.
1:04.3	I think it's only happened maybe one or twice in the years I've been doing this.
1:08.9	Well, at least on my other show, The Overwhelmed Brain.
1:11.4	And this show, I started in February of 2019.
1:16.6	And so every now and then, someone won't like something I say.
1:23.0	And what's interesting about love and abuse is that, you know, a lot of people that are experiencing toxic relationships will listen to this show and learn something from it and then take what they learned into their relationship or go one step further and leave their relationship or communicate with their partner or the person
1:45.6	being toxic in a way that's more productive than destructive. And what I mean by that is, let's just
1:52.7	say that you're the victim of emotional abuse or some sort of toxic relationship. And you normally
1:58.2	find yourself being defensive when the toxic person is trying to put you down or make you feel bad about yourself.
2:06.0	And that technique probably doesn't work for you because a toxic person will put you on the defense and want you to stay there so they stay in power.
2:18.8	And as long as you're on the defense, they stay in power. They get to call the shots and they get to do whatever they want
2:25.1	to do and continue doing what they want to do because you're too busy defending yourself
2:30.1	and wondering what you did wrong. And so you might listen to a show like this or some other resource material and learn a
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