NOT ANOTHER MATCHA LATTE: Why self-care trends are making us feel worse and how to actually feel better

LATE BLOOMERS

Rich & Rox Pink

Self-improvement, Education

5.0 • 599 Ratings

🗓️ 4 June 2025

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

Self-care is everywhere. From matcha lattes and five-step skincare routines to cold plunges and pastel journals, the internet is overflowing with advice on how to look after yourself. But here’s the problem…most of it doesn’t work for people like us. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox and Rich pull the curtain back on the performance of self-care and ask the big question: what does it actually look like when you're neurodivergent, overwhelmed, and barely keeping up with life?

We talk honestly about our own struggles — including Rich’s emotional pizza binges and Rox’s battle with cleaning her teeth — and unpack why so many self-care trends set us up to fail. We explore how “care” became something we perform for the internet, why aesthetics can be damaging, and how toxic productivity has snuck into even our bubble baths.

This is not an episode about doing more. It’s about doing less — with kindness. It's about brushing your teeth, sending the email, and drinking some bloody water. If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at self-care, we want you to know: you’re not alone, and there is a better way.

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0:00.0	What the hell is actual self-care?
0:02.5	We are going to talk about the myth of self-care that we've all seen on Instagram with the green smoothies and the bubble baths.
0:09.5	We're going to talk about the challenges that neurodivergent people might have with self-care.
0:14.3	We're also going to talk about some of our self-care challenges and then give you a couple of tips that are actually going to help you with
0:22.7	your self-care.
0:23.8	This is late blooms where we are getting our lives together.
0:26.8	Eventually.
0:28.2	Self-care then.
0:29.8	We're definitely not gurus of this, are we?
0:32.6	We're like, but we're probably best qualified to talk about maybe some of the pitfalls.
0:38.4	For sure.
0:39.1	I think I am for sure.
0:41.5	So self-care is absolutely still the like Insta version of self-care.
0:52.5	Yeah.
0:53.1	So it's me buying expensive bubble bath, body oils, the new net sponge, and setting up
1:01.2	an impossible routine that I'm going to fail out and then end up beating myself over the
1:06.7	back with.
1:07.2	So like my self-care just ends up with these momentary, aesthetic, impossible goals
1:15.5	that I fail at and then end up feeling worse. So it's not, it's not self-care at all.
1:19.8	I love that we're reflecting on this a little bit because what it will mean, hopefully, is that
1:25.0	I never have to endure one of those smoothies again.
1:28.5	Do you remember what I'm talking about?
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