Not a Pick Me Girl Ever Again
Quality Queen Control
Asha Christina
4.7 • 746 Ratings
🗓️ 29 April 2026
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
In this era shifting episode of Quality Queen Control, Asha Christina calls out the Pick Me Girl behavior that’s been holding so many queens back competing with other women, dimming your light, accepting bare minimum, and performing for male validation like it’s a full-time job.
No more shrinking. No more performing. No more crumbs.
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| 0:00.0 | If you have to be performative in a relationship and stretch yourself every which way but the right one, |
| 0:06.4 | you will always feel like you are honestly unemployed in the relationship, right? |
| 0:12.2 | Like you're not quite there yet. |
| 0:13.9 | You haven't earned the job. |
| 0:15.3 | You haven't gotten it. |
| 0:16.4 | That's what it feels like. |
| 0:17.8 | Hey, babe. |
| 0:19.1 | It's Asia Christina. This is Quality Queen Control. What is happening? |
| 0:29.4 | Hello everybody. Welcome back to Quality Queen Control. If this is your first time seeing me, |
| 0:35.9 | hello, my name is Asia Christina Foster. If this is your first time hearing me, hello. My name is Asia Christina Foster. If this is your |
| 0:39.2 | first time hearing me, well, girl, welcome to the AIDS team. This is the Quality Queen |
| 0:43.8 | Control podcast where we talk about all things, dating, lifestyle, relationships, everything. |
| 0:52.1 | We cover it all. But more importantly, I am here to help you navigate to |
| 0:57.1 | move smarter. Okay. That's what this is all about. It's about growing and it's about helping one |
| 1:03.7 | another as, you know, and not gatekeeping, right? Being as genuine as we can. So this topic, I'm sure |
| 1:10.1 | I've covered tons of times before. It just was not in the |
| 1:13.3 | medium of a podcast. And it's time that we actually bring it back because it seems like we |
| 1:20.2 | still suffer from this epidemic of being a pick me and having this whole build a bear service for men. So I understand that this may |
| 1:31.0 | make some people very uncomfortable and I'm a tough love kind of girly. So that's not really |
| 1:36.8 | going to change. But before you get defensive and say, oh, that's not me, let's define exactly |
| 1:43.1 | what a pick me is. So a pick me is not just a woman |
| 1:46.5 | who wants a man. It is a woman who abandons herself to be chosen. And of course, you ask an actual |
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