Hello. How are you doing this week? I'm just imagining what you need from me. Maybe you need some encouragement or maybe things are going well. Maybe your loved one is practicing sobriety and I want to celebrate that. There are a lot of you out there who have written me and told me that your loved one has gotten sober and I, I think that is the

greatest achievement of all time. I think someone that manages and chooses to get sober for an extended period is

deserves so much respect. I just always tear up when I hear that about when I meet people

that are doing that. I have never struggled with addiction and like for me mean, I love sugar and I often think like if someone told me I could never have another drop of sugar for the rest of my life.

I don't even know and that's pales in comparison to

probably the desires and urges that someone has with addiction and the social stigma that goes around that and the pressure in our society to drink or use drugs. My kids are, we have a few kids in college and one in

law school and they don't drink or use drugs and they constantly are telling me in order to have

friends in a social life they find themselves with people who drink as you know a social behavior and they're getting more

and more comfortable with the idea of being vocal about that and choosing to abstain but I've seen them, you know, say no

thank you to alcohol that's being offered to them and get pressured in front of me.

And oftentimes the people that are pressuring them are the people who know our story

and who know their story of their biological father and that there's genetics at play and they're still

offering them a beer or a drink or telling me that it's unreasonable for me to encourage my children to not drink.

It gets me worked up, It's very ridiculous and I'm so incredibly proud that my children are continuing in their 20s to live that lifestyle.

Makes me very very very grateful so

where was I even going with that I don't even know why I was told sorry

That was just a little a little personal tangent of mine and I apologize but back to you.

So we're going to talk today about advice. All right?

It if you go to the bookstore and a lot of us live in towns where they don't even exist anymore,

which is so incredibly sad because a good bookstore is like one of my favorite places on earth to be.

And you walk into a marital section or advice section.

There's not a lot of great New York Times bestsellers

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