Hello, to celebrate the new year I sat down with Dan Harris from the 10% happier

podcast and we talked about what are some of the thingsiables to us when it comes to relationships, values,

principles, what he calls the non-negotiables to stay connected.

And recently I've been talking a lot about conflict, about how we stay connected to true difference,

how we create community at this moment when more and more

there's a social atrophy that's creeping up on us, and especially how do we maintain a connection with people who think differently from us and who soon may vote differently from us. So let's listen. In December 2020, a Latino couple was falsely accused by a white mom

influencer of attempting to kidnap her children. The Karen phenomenon where white

women falsely accused people of color of crimes usually fixates on the accuser, the so-called Karen.

But for this series we focus on the innocent couple at the heart of this story.

I just want the public to know what she did was wrong.

In Perfect Paradise People versus Karen, available now wherever you get your podcasts. broadcasts. I'm Dan Harris. Hello everybody, how we do.

When you're Hello everybody how we doing when people are making new years resolutions I think

they mostly focus on things like diet exercise finances getting a new job

starting a meditation habit, things like that.

Maybe I'm wrong about this, but that's my general impression.

We live in an age of optimization. People are tracking their calories, tracking their sleep,

tracking their meditation streaks, tracking their

heart rate, are pretty healthy although I would argue that you need to be careful about not

dieting or exercising from a place of self-loathing or conforming to societal norms

that may have nothing to do with your actual health anyway, if you are interested in getting

happier, healthier, and more successful, my reading of the data strongly suggests

that the most effective lever, the thing you really should optimize, is your relationships,

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