Hey, that beautiful people. Welcome to fan tied the podcast, follow those complex and

complicated conversations about the great areas in our lives. I am Trevelle Anderson.

And I generally prefer MSNBC, even though I worked at CNN, Jared Hill coming up on the

show today. We are talking about monogamy. We're going to jump right into this conversation.

Over the last few years, I've been through a few breakups and I've gotten to thinking

a lot more about how I engage my relationships. My whole life, I've said some version of,

I've seen divorce as part of every relationship close to me, for my parents, my grandparents,

my aunts, my uncles, but I recently reframed that to say that all of the modeling I've seen

has demonstrated to me the ways that relationships tend to be fluid. That reframing has got me

questioning everything about marriage and monogamy and why there's not more mainstream challenging

of these institutions that are allegedly so important to us, but can't seem to be questioned.

So we wanted to ask some damn questions and we're hoping that we found the right person

to help us navigate some of those answers. Joining us for the fan tie is Evyan Whitney,

whose work focuses on decolonizing, unshaming and liberating sexuality, and at the intersection of

identity, pleasure, and embodiment. For the last decade, Evyan has dedicated herself to sex

education and sexual activism by holding space for women, femmes, and non-binary folks to reclaim

their unique sexual expressions and reconnect to their sexual bodies via personal sessions, workshops,

and retreats. Evyan, welcome to fan tie. Hey, so happy to be here. Thanks for having me.

Thanks for coming. Absolutely, thank you. Yeah, so excited to have you here for this conversation.

First things first, want to know what have you believed about monogamy over time and like,

how has that evolved to where you are today? Oh, a big gosh. We're jumping right in there.

I know, right? Okay, okay. I respect that. You know, I grew up thinking about monogamy the way

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