Welcome to the Absolute Dog Sex and a Squirrel podcast. I'm Lauren Langman. I'm one of the world's leading dog trainers and it's my mission to help owners become their dog's top priority. In each episode, you'll discover how to gain trust and

communicate with your dog like never before, creating unbreakable bonds that make you the most

exciting part of their world. No pressure. No pressure. No pressure. Immediately what happens

when you get told no pressure? We feel pressure. There's so much pressure. What was I feeling

pressured about? What have we got to do? I'm feeling pressured. I think we put on what There's so much pressure. What was I feeling pressured about? What are we going to do?

I'm feeling pressured.

I think we put on what we put so much pressure on ourselves. We do. And actually it's not other people that put the pressure on because people will say, oh yeah, but they were watching me. Yeah, I get that they were watching you. But you know what? They're probably in their own little world thinking about their own things and you're just like entertainment.

Like, don't panic.

You're of no importance to everybody else.

Most people are so self-absorbed and so in their own place. They think it orbits their world. But they've got their own world. And pressure is such a massive thing in dog training. Pressure is such a massive thing in the dog sports world, in the dog world generally. I see it in the horse world. Pressure can really upset the relationship with your dog. Yes. Yeah. Really get undermined

how you are with your dog and undermine the success you can have with your dog and the fun you can

have. Now whether that's at pet level and I know you're teaching a lot of the time lots of pet owners, as am I, or whether it's at competitive sports level, which again, you're teaching people at competitive sports level as am I.

Right up to sort of ticket and world championship level for me, my students, I see them put so much pressure on themselves.

So the point, it almost ruins what they're doing and their

experience. I can actually see it really did debilitate their ability to have a good time. And

people say, yeah, I'm just trying to have fun. And right now, this really isn't fun. And actually,

you've completely upset the balance of what could be fun, haven't you? Yes. By doing that.

You have.

And it's, I always try to think of it in terms of doing, looking at a situation and saying,

what is it that I can do in this situation?

Not what I imagine is expected of me or what other, what's the dream or what do I think other people want? That's a huge one. What do I think other people want? Number one, you'll never know because it's guesswork. And number two, actually, that's not what you want. So why, why even, there's a brilliant saying, isn't there? Comparison is the Thief of Joy. So comparison is thief of joy. And the second one for me is whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're probably right. And I would actually say you're right, not even probably. And so, and that's Henry Ford. And so for me, when we think about pressure and when we think about our relationship with our dogs, none of us got in this to feel pressure. None of us got involved here to have a hard time.

None of us got involved here to feel inadequate. And I think actually when we talk about no

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