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and find me on YouTube for four new videos a week. Welcome back to the podcast, Shalogators. This week, we are going to talk about how to give,

oh, shall we say back to a guy who's pissing us off. How do we express ourselves to a dude who might need a little bit

of correction? He's acting up. He's misbehaving. He's making us mad. He's hurting our feelings.

He's not talking to us the frequency we want. He's not planning dates. Just whatever petty grab

bag of male bullshit you want to come up with because it's like honestly endless.

How do we express that without sounding crazy, desperate, naggy?

Or even if we don't sound like any of those things, how do we just make effective change?

And you know what?

It's very easy for us to throw the baby out with the bathwater, as they say. I am a person who cut someone off when they piss me off. But number one, that it really doesn't give people a chance to grow. And some people truly don't know that what they're doing is like a deal breaker or it's catastrophic. Maybe they've dated people who didn't mind or didn't care. Or maybe they just don't know. Or maybe

they're just dumb and they need a little education. But also when I do that, and I know when you guys do

that, we deprive ourselves of the skill building. When I do that, I do it partly because like a guy's

pissed me off, but also because I'm kind of a coward and I don't like confrontation. So instead of

expressing myself, I just cut someone off. Instead of cleaning the house, I'm just going to burn it down.

But, but my friend and I, one of my besties is visiting. And of course, we're sitting around just

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