Love now and...

Love was stronger than anything you know.

And I love you're more than anything.

You're still love.

Love.

From the New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.

This is Modern Love.

I'm 31, which means I am in the thick of my bridesmaid era. By the end of this

year, I'll have been a bridesmaid four times, officiated two weddings, and gone to five

bachelorette parties. For these weddings and the bacheloretts that come with them, I've traveled

to Cabo and Miami and Philly and the Hamptons and a small Korean island called Juju.

I've bought shoes and dresses and purses and makeup, most of which I'll never wear again.

And I want to be incredibly clear. I'm lucky to be able to do this. I love my friends. I love celebrating them. I love, love. I host the show.

But I've been thinking about how much all of this costs us. Of course, financially, but also

emotionally. Being a bridesmaid comes with a ton of expectations. And you're supposed to navigate

all of it while saying yes to the bride and smiling

for the cameras. I've been thinking about this stuff a lot, and so has today's guest, Rahama Well-A.

She's written a new book called I Hope You Elope. It's a bridesmaid survival guide that I think is

long overdue, but might ruffle some bridal feathers.

Rahama told me why she's decided she will never be a bridesmaid again.

And she has advice, if you happen to find yourself in the position, of being asked to buy yet another color-coordinated pastel satin dress.

If you know, you know.

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