New! Sober Awkward Top Ten - 10 x Tips to Sober Socialising
Sober Awkward
Victoria Vanstone
4.8 • 533 Ratings
🗓️ 29 August 2025
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
It is one of the questions we get asked most frequently, one of the biggest challenges to anyone in their early sobriety and one of the most important skills to perfect if you want to avoid slipping-up.
How do we socialise without booze?
What do we say/do with our hands/handle drunk people/dance/kiss/flirt/be idiots etc. Sound familiar?
Not only is this one of our favourite topics but it is also one that we feel confident in sharing a fool proof list of Top 10 tips. These have been tried and tested over and over again are a great way to get you prepped for this wild old ride called sober socialising!
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Sober Awkward Top Tens, your weekly dose of 10 things you didn't ask for, but you |
| 0:09.6 | definitely need. It's a bit like therapy, but cheaper, less professional, and with probably a bit more |
| 0:16.4 | chat about mine and Hamish's bodily functions. Hamish and I will be taking turns delivering sober |
| 0:22.0 | truths, odd tips and life updates you never, ever knew you needed. So brace yourself. It's about |
| 0:29.8 | to get very awkward. Hello and welcome back to this week's top 10. |
| 0:40.1 | And I must say this is probably my favourite subject of all within sobriety. |
| 0:45.5 | These are my top 10 tips to best prepare yourself for your first sober social event. |
| 0:52.8 | Oh, I just love it so much. |
| 0:57.1 | Okay, number 10, I'll try and keep this for under 10 minutes, but I do feel passionately about this. Number 10, and this might sound a little bit counterintuitive, |
| 1:03.0 | please don't go unless you feel completely ready to go. It sounds obvious, but a sober social event will probably be at a bar or a pub or someone's house where you're going to go. It sounds obvious, but a Sobel social event will probably be at a bar or a pub or |
| 1:13.8 | someone's house where you're going to be surrounded by alcohol. There's lots of danger in that. |
| 1:18.3 | There's lots of triggers in that. Just give yourself time. You'd have to rush into this early, |
| 1:24.9 | feel ready for it, do lots of sober socialising in like daytime for |
| 1:30.6 | walks or cafes or places where there is no booze. Build up your confidence in doing this before |
| 1:36.1 | you say yes to something where there will be booze. Okay? Thank you. Number nine, do something |
| 1:43.1 | calming before you get to the event. We can often build up |
| 1:47.1 | these sober events as something huge and something that I need to absolutely nail and it's going to be |
| 1:51.7 | fantastic. Give yourself a bit of time to calm beforehand. I'm not necessarily saying you have to |
| 1:57.8 | meditate in your car outside the pub but just relax a little bit |
| 2:02.9 | breathe this is not the be all and end all of your life and if it goes tits up don't worry |
| 2:09.9 | i often think we are hard on ourselves if we go to a so if we go to an event sober and it's |
| 2:16.4 | shit and we're like oh oh, I'm just not good |
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