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In this episode, the author of Never Date a Broke Dude to unpack why money and dating collide—and why that conversation matters. We trace the moment the book was born, her journey from debt to multi‑millionaire (including three non‑negotiable financial rules), and practical advice for bringing up finances early in a relationship. We also cover warning signs to watch for, the influence of upbringing on money habits, what financial health beyond income looks like, and why commitment fears persist. Tune in for blunt, actionable guidance aimed at shifting dating standards and starting real conversations about money and partnership.

Guest

Known as "The Duchess of Decorum" by her IMM followers, Pattie Ehsaei https://www.tiktok.com/@duchessofdecorum has established herself as one of the leading financial experts today. Pattie's TikTok teachings on female equality in the workplace, financial literacy, workplace decorum and financial independence for women have over 7.9MM likes-answering questions such as
"How do I maintain financial independence in a relationship?" "How do I make and keep a budget?" "How do I maintain my power in the workplace?" "How do I ask for a raise?" "How do I navigate male-dominated industries?" These are the type of questions that Pattie provides real and honest answers to, that keep her fans begging for more.
Born in Iran, the Persian beauty moved to Los Angeles as a youth and has spent the last 20 years in a multifaceted career in finance. From managing divisions of banking institutions, business development, investment banking, and raising capital from sovereign wealth funds in private equity, Pattie has seen all sides of the industry and has quickly become an authority in this space.
A lawyer by trade and currently a Director of Mergers & Acquisitions financing for a major financial institution, Pattie is the perfect example of "tough, but fair" and believes that success comes from information and empowerment.
Pattie's direct approach peppered with levity and some real takeaway made her an instant success and a highly sought-after speaker. She has delivered keynote addresses for numerous platforms and organizations including Create & Cultivate, Iranian American Women's Foundation, Women's Investment Summit, the New England Women in Banking & Mortgage Conference, and the University of Denver STEM Program. She's also been a panelist for events that inspire the next generation of women such as the Meet Me in Malibu Influencer Panel.
Pattie's voice can also be seen in print on Forbes.com and MSNBC where she shares her wisdom as a financial contributor. On May 6, 2025, Pattie released her highly anticipated book, Never Date A Broke Dude: The Financial Freedom Playbook. In this book, Pattie gives readers practical advice on finance, romance, and breaks down exactly why "a man is not a financial plan!"

Host

Olyasha Novozhylova @notbasicblonde_

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