Hey, this is Leo for actualized.org, and let's talk about negative thoughts.

All right, in this quick self-help segment, I am going to cover negative thoughts, what they are,

set your expectations for how they work, and give you some techniques that you can use to cope with them, deal with them, eliminate them.

All right, so negative thoughts, or as many of us call it, automatic negative negative thoughts because that's what it is.

We don't realize it's how many of these thoughts you're actually having and how unconsciously

and spontaneous and just automatically you're having them throughout your day.

So whether it's a negative thought about your girlfriend or boyfriend, negative thought about

what somebody did to you while you were driving to work, a negative thought about having to go to the gym or a negative thought about what's going to be happening to you next month when you can't pay the bills, you know, your mind is really, really good at taking your

greatest fears and projecting them and catastrophizing them and just creating the

worst possible case scenarios and then putting them right before

your eyes and just like bam flashing them right before you.

So whatever your greatest fears are in life,

chances are that you're having a lot of negative thoughts

around that fear.

And I do usually tend to find that it's one or two main fears.

And this is probably something like an issue that crept up

and kind of stuck with you from childhood or earlier adulthood.

And these things tend to be centered around, for example, the fear of failure.

Maybe you have a fear of wanting a poor and homeless. Maybe you have a fear of not winding up in a good relationship and being

lonely and dying miserable and unloved, maybe you have a fear of really

getting rejected by somebody if you put yourself out there,

whether in a relationship or maybe in a business context,

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