When his wife became pregnant with their fourth child, Greg panicked, but a focus on the family counselor put everything into perspective.

He said, the first thing you need to realize that kids are a blessing or all of the

blessings that their gifts from God and the second thing you said was kid value

relationships not stuff. I'm Jim Daly let's give more families hope. Any gift you send will be doubled at

Focus on the Family.com slash gift. Every marriage needs some great friendships and we are fortunate.

Dina and I have over the years been able to have some couples where we connect.

We are able to go deep, we're able to double date and have some fun times together.

They are a lifeline to our relationship.

But what if you don't have any good friends or what if you

have friends that aren't really helpful? I'm John Fuller joined by my colleagues

Aaron and Greg Smalley also my friends. Greg you and Aaron say it takes a village to raise a marriage

and I guess we're kind of going down that road. What are some warning signs that a

friendship isn't a value ad but it's actually dragging a marriage down.

Yeah, I would think things like if there's constant negativity from this friendship

so every time we get together all we do is you know talk about all

the negative and it's just it just it drags us down I think if there's a lack of

boundaries maybe there's a lack of boundaries so so maybe these friends are over sharing about personal things.

It just always feels awkward or uncomfortable.

Sometimes it's a one-sided relationship and it feels like we're always the one inviting, giving, trying to get

together and they never seem to reciprocate that.

I've had friends before that talk about having other friends that

was just so one-sided like one spouse always felt excluded or never felt

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