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Well sometimes you feel like you're taking a step forward and two steps backwards when it comes to

communicating in a meaningful way in the home.

But that dance doesn't have to lead to disaster.

I'm John Fuller with Danny Werta.

He runs our parenting department here at Focus on the Family.

And Danny, communication problems.

Golly, they just are so common. We run into things that really come down to control, don't we?

I mean, we're trying to get the other person to do what we want, but just like in dancing,

we really can't force change on them just because we

wanted. That's right it's it's really about influencing the other person and that's why

relationship is so important I ran across this quote by

Thomas Kempis. It says be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish

them to be since you cannot make yourself as you wish yourself to be.

Ooh, that is a good one more time, because that really was good.

Thomas Kempis said, be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be

since you cannot make yourself as you wish them to be since you cannot make yourself as you wish yourself to be.

Okay now keep that quote in mind because we're going to hear more from our guest

Dr Mike Bechtel. Jim Daly and I talked to Mike and he explained how we can really only work on trying to change ourselves, not others,

and here now is Jim Daly.

In your book, Dealing with the elephant in the room, you offer some wonderful word

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