Navigating Relationships Through Every Storm: Dr. Jim Burns and Dave & Ann Wilson
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🗓️ 21 March 2019
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
Parenting expert Dr. Jim Burns, along with husband-and-wife ministry team Dave and Ann Wilson teach us about caring for our loved ones through all seasons of life. As a father to three grown daughters, Jim has been through every stage of parenting. But when his daughters reached their adult years, Jim and his wife Cathy realized their parenting style needed to evolve with their changing relationship with their children. Jim took what he learned through the experience and shared it through his latest book, Doing Life with Your Adult Children. In 1990, Dave Wilson was traveling with the Detroit Lions as their chaplain. And when he was home, he and his wife Ann were building their young family and a new church, Though Dave and Ann seemed to be living the life of their dreams, on their 10th anniversary, Ann made a revelation that put their marriage into a spin and would forever change their relationship.
Links, Products and Resources Mentioned:
Jim Burns’ Doing Life with Your Adult Children book
Dave and Ann Wilson: daveandannwilson.com
Dave and Ann Willson’s Vertical Marriage book
Interview Quotes:
“I heal broken hearts . . . and broken relationships.” –Jesus Calling
“The book is called Doing Life With Your Adult Children. We say ‘Keep your mouth shut, keep the welcome mat out.’” - Dr. Jim Burns
“The bottom line in parenting—they could be a five-year-old or an adult—is not that you raise obedient children, but that you raise responsible adults.” - Dr. Jim Burns
“When kids stray, whether it be lifestyle choice or whether it be faith issues, I think what we do is we still stand by them, and we have to understand where they're coming from.” - Dr. Jim Burns
“I think Jesus had some disagreements with people. No doubt He said it. He was verbal about it, but then He still showed love to people that within His generation—you know, tax collectors—shouldn't have been at the party. The prostitutes shouldn't have been wiping her tears on His feet because that was not happening with the rabbis. But 2hat Jesus did was He didn't tend to agree with how they lived their life, but He did show love and acceptance.” - Dr. Jim Burns
“Tough love says that you surround [your children] with love, and while you surround them with love, you don't bail them out. And you don't dump your anger and frustration on them.” - Dr. Jim Burns
“You're overwhelmed by the evidence that says this really did happen and Jesus died for me, forgave me, rose from the dead to give me a new life and power.” - Dave Wilson
“I want to use what God's done in our lives to reach other people.” - Dave Wilson
“Dave was fulfilling this dream and this call—I felt like we were both called, but as a mom, I kind of felt left in the dust.” - Ann Wilson
"God, I have made my marriage and my husband an idol, and I put you back on the throne of my life...I confess that I haven't put you first. And I put you first now and make our marriage and our family what you want it to be." Ann Wilson
“We kind of put some things in place that could help us restore our marriage, my feelings, our relationship.” - Ann Wilson
“In time, my feelings for [Dave] came all the way back to a 10, and I feel like that was only because of God's mercy and grace, but also putting it into practice my walk with God [and] really fighting for it and making it a priority.” - Ann Wilson
“You didn't marry the wrong person, you're looking in the wrong place. Only God can give you what you’re really looking for.” - Dave Wilson
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| 0:00.0 | The Bible says that you that the man or woman of integrity walks |
| 0:06.8 | securely. If you're authentic, then you know your kids are going to be more secure. |
| 0:10.3 | Will they be perfect? No. And we keep thinking that there's somebody out there that might have the perfect family. I haven't found that yet. |
| 0:17.0 | Welcome to the Jesus Calling Podcast. Today's guest teach us about caring for our loved ones through all seasons of life. |
| 0:25.0 | Parenting expert Dr. Jim Burns, along with husband and wife ministry team Dave and Ann Wilson. |
| 0:31.0 | Up first, Jim Burns is the president of Homeward, an organization that aims to help families succeed. |
| 0:39.1 | As a father to three grown daughters, Jim has been through every stage of parenting. |
| 0:43.4 | But when his daughters reach their adult years, Jim and his wife, Kathy, realized their parenting |
| 0:47.8 | style needed to evolve with their changing relationship with their children. Jim took what he learned through experience and shares it through his latest book, |
| 0:56.0 | Doing Life with your adult children. |
| 0:59.0 | Well, my name is Jim Burns, and I've been married to Kathy for 44 years. |
| 1:02.0 | We have three daughters, so we've had no hormones or drama in our life. They're all adults now. I am the president of Homeward and Homeward has four values, strong marriages, confident parents, empowered kids and healthy leaders, and that's sort of what we write about and |
| 1:15.6 | what we talk about. We're the largest provider of parenting seminars in the United States, and so we keep |
| 1:20.4 | busy doing that, fun stuff, and that's me. |
| 1:24.3 | Parents who have adult children are having to kind of relearn how you parent |
| 1:29.5 | and that their children who are adults and themselves |
| 1:32.4 | are going through what I call kind of a parallel |
| 1:34.8 | track and you know that parallel track simply means that you know it's the first time for the adult |
| 1:40.3 | child to figure out how to you know relate it's also the first time for the parent. We really |
| 1:44.7 | had to, you know, kind of relearn that we had a new job description and that our role as a parent |
| 1:49.7 | had to change. I oftentimes say, you're fired. You're fired as a day-to-day parent and now your |
| 1:55.9 | role moves from adult child to adult to adult, and it doesn't happen in one day. I mean, I still |
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